My Pride Story


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My Pride Story: My bully was gay and resented me being out

When I was growing up, I didn’t know a single gay person (no-one was out either at school or at college) and the only famous out gay person I can recall from the time was Julian Clary.  He was so different to everything I knew about myself that I couldn’t possibly identify with him.  I […]

My Pride Story: Allyship Opens Doors

A deep breath. My pulse quickens. I still vividly recall coming out to my first supervisor as a trainee at my previous firm. Although I was already out to my intake, somehow having the conversation with a senior felt much more difficult, more risky. It’s a conversation which, of course, many LGBTQ+ individuals find themselves […]

My Pride Story: Out in the office

“Backs against the wall lads”. That was the startling advice given to me on my first work outing as an articled clerk in Liverpool in 1990. The newbies were being taken on a drinking tour of the city, and part of the tour was to a gay bar to – basically – gawp at the […]

My Pride Story: I had to hide that I was a gay mum for many years

Growing up in Ireland in the 80s LGBT+ role models were thin on the ground. I wanted children which felt near impossible with a woman back then. So, I was in denial for years and thanks to my Catholic guilt expected to stay in the closet forever. I wasn’t out at university or professionally until […]

My Pride Story: The biggest obstacle in my career wasn’t being gay

I was in a same-sex relationship before I started my training contract 16 years ago, and I have been completely out for my entire career. On applications, I deliberately included details of my time helping to run the student LGBT society, despite friends’ advice. My thinking was simple: If a firm doesn’t want the real […]

My Pride Story: Tearing up my life plans

I grew up heavily closeted in a small, conservative village, and from a young age I assumed that I would grow up, find a husband, and have children. I still have my 13-year-old diary in which I set out my life plan, which involved being married, qualified, and a parent age 27. Even then I […]

My Pride Story: Schrodinger’s “coming out”

As Pride month rolls round once again, I find myself reflecting on progress made in LGBT+ rights over the years: from the Stonewall riots of 1969, to the establishment of UK charity Stonewall in response to the pernicious s.28 in the late 80s, and then to civil partnerships and eventually the enactment in 2013 of […]

My Pride Story: From shame to confidence, to self-love

Remember Pet Shop Boys’ song “Go West”? For various historical reasons, it was an anthem where I grew up and developed as a person. Prior to the globalisation and the transition of Eastern Europe, Bulgaria was one of the most amicable places to grow up as a kid – children tended to be the centre […]